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📝 A Little Wee Note on Self-love, Acceptance and Independence

At some point in your life, you will realize that it's time to do things differently - to adapt a different approach to how you're handling things. No, this blogpost is not going to be a lecture, but you get what I'm sayin'- you might be thinking of leaving your partner, making a living for yourself, but the truth is, we all want to be able to love and accept yourself for who you truly are at one point or another.

It's so easy to lose yourself in someone else - depend on them, let them push you over and walk all over you like it's all you've ever do is feel uneasy about where your life is going. In fact, in some cases, you might have lost yourself in the progress, maybe you forgot who you really are. Maybe you're reading this post right now wondering who you are at all.

Here's an example; breaking up with a friend or a romantic partner might leave you feeling rather depressed because, in your mind, they have filled a void - a void that you could have easily filled yourself if you had loved yourself before you even got into a relationship. Your friend or significant other should not be a cure to whatever you're going through neither should they discourage you in any way.

So, there you are - realizing that things need to change. Well done for coming this far. You might even be aware of the fact that change is a scary thing, but once you're going for it, there'll be no stopping you. Stepping outside of your comfort zone might seem like the most outrageous thing you've ever done - heck, it might even seem impossible - but let me tell you, we're all able to change our way of thinking and therefore learning who we are and loving and accepting ourselves, becoming entirely independent in the progress.

Emotional independence seems like a huge deal, and trust me, it is. I oftentimes see people jump from one lily pad to another when it comes to the pond of relationships, sometimes because they are dependent on their significant other financially, but more often because they're emotionally dependent on them. Being alone is something that many of us fear; however, you won't feel lonely if you find the power within yourself to be comfortable being alone. Being alone or single does not equal loneliness.

I'll spill the tea right away; you, my darling, you need to take a better look at yourself. Find out who you are, what you enjoy doing. Rediscover your dreams, find out what it is you want in the long run. Pick up a new hobby, explore your surroundings without depending on someone else. If you're feeling sad or happy, feel your feels! By that, I mean that you should not run to a friend or a partner right away when you're feeling something. Sit back and analyze your feelings. Is someone else responsible for how depressed or guilty you feel? Cut them out. Distance yourself from negativity while you're getting to know yourself.

However, there's a catch; you will not only find power within yourself, you'll also find your fears. You'll have to face them, fight them, but ultimately, you only have to stick to your plan to let go of them once and for all. They might occasionally come back and bite you in the bum, but the trick is not to see this as a setback but rather as a lesson. You'll learn from the experience - you will grow stronger. You will find the inner you - you will become YOU.

Long story short: find out who you are, love yourself for it. Realize nobody but you can solve your problems. You do have the power to, even though you will occasionally have to face your fears. In the end, you will become who you want to be, as long as you don't let anyone or any circumstance stop you.

From my heart to yours,

*inspired by a Facebook-status by Jen Dent ❤️ and my own personal experiences.