1. Instead of burying and avoiding your fears, find the courage to face and examine them. Often fears are rooted in uncertainty and insecurity. If we admit this, we can master them.2. Try and figure out what is behind the fear. Is it a bad experience from the past – something that happened to you or to someone else? Is it related to something someone has said, or threatened?
3. Try and be rational about the situation. Usually things work out better than we expect – and our fears are often blown out of proportion. Do you need help in acquiring skills (such as social skills)? If so, how can you get the help you need? What steps can you take to help to lessen your fear?
4. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that could happen?”- Then ask yourself, “How likely is it that that will happen?” In all likelihood the chances are small. Also, ask yourself, “What would I do if the worst possible thing happened? Would I be able to survive it?” The chances are it would be bad – but not the end of the world.
5. Move your focus from the past to the present and the future. Instead of getting bogged down in failures and regrets, see the present as an opportunity to take a small step to build a better, brighter future.